What has been your experience regarding “letting go”?
By no means am I an expert in the art of letting go….in fact, it is one of my daily challenges, which is why I am choosing to write about it. Letting go is hard for many of us and causes much anguish and unnecessary grief. What exactly is meant by “letting go”? Jon Kabat-Zinn in his book Wherever You Go There You Are sums it up nicely:
Letting go means just what is says. It’s an invitation to
cease clinging to anything – whether it be an idea, a
a thing, an event, a particular time, or view, or desire…
to let go means to give up coercing, resisting, or
struggling…we hold on with our minds. We catch
ourselves, get stuck ourselves, often desperately,
to narrow views, to self-serving hopes and wishes…
What causes us the most unhappiness in life, is our unwillingness to let go of that which no longer serves us. This could be anything – a person, place or thing. When we are holding on to something, we are preventing the natural flow of life. If a habit no longer serves us, then why hold onto it? Why is it so hard to let go? Because we are afraid of losing it. Now there’s an interesting mess.
Why are we afraid? What we “know” is easier to accept than what we don’t know. If we let go of something we are attached to, we are opening ourselves up to the unknown, and that is really scary. It is also Freedom… I believe there is an art to letting go just as there is an art to allowing life to show up as it will and chose your space within it. Go ahead an release a few expectations, you may surprised at how much lighter your load will become. See a new and possibly unfamiliar side yourself. Whooohooo….
Attachment, according to the Buddhist philosophy, causes us the most pain and suffering. This does not mean that you must be a non-caring or complacent person: it simply means that holding onto “things” costs us our freedom, and to enjoy life is to enjoy things as they come and go.
Life is impermanence. Life moves through us. Everything is born and everything dies or as we know it, takes on another form. This is a simple truth and just is. Doesn’t it make sense to just let go and let life happen? Trust life, all of it and a whole new world of doors will open up for you. Transformation happens when we trust our instincts and out intuition and move into action this way. Trust your vision one moment at a time! Be well and so it is….
I will end this contemplation on letting go with a verse by the Buddha himself…think about it:
Do not pursue the past.
Do not lose yourself in the future.
The past no longer is.
The future has not yet come.
Looking deeply at life as it is
Is the very here and now,
The practitioner dwells
In stability and freedom.
We must be diligent today.
To wait until tomorrow is too late.
Namaste to you